Blink. Blink.

In continuation.

He wanted to meet. (Yah, you wait long long.) So I asked for his birth time. (If nothing else, it might weird him out enough that he'll avoid me. Hahahaha.) The clown actually asked if I wanted it to plan his marriage. (This one takes the cake.) When I said it was to determine our compatibility, he handed over the information easily. Then I told him that not only was there a "clash", his mere presence would be bad for my health, and that my fortune teller advised me to avoid him like TTSH CDC...because he was married. (With a smiley, of course.)

He said that he had separated and was awaiting the divorce. And then he asked why I had brought this up. As SF said, why didn't HE bring it up earlier?

Ignored his subsequent attempts to talk; he must also have several questions on his mind by then. Anyway, the best way to handle a control freak is to deny him, wouldn't you say?

How soon?

The question is: How soon do you need to know?

Is it possible to balance the need for honesty without scaring away a romantic interest, and the risk of the latter finding it out for himself / herself?

If you have definite intentions and they are noble ones, there is no such thing as "too soon". It is merely a status that you carry. There is nothing to be ashamed of, or to hide (unless you do have something to hide). In fact, this can be mentioned casually, as a by-the-way, slipped into the conversation. E.g. "Sorry I'm late, had to see the divorce lawyer." Something like that, you know.

So I think it should be ASAP. Thank you very much.